'It sounds more like a furniture brand': Mom-to-be faces pushback for rejecting husband's absurd baby name

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    r/Amlthe u/Beginning Date 1924 • 23h AITA for rejecting the worst name ever for our offspring?
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    So, my husband (38M) and I (36F) are expecting our first child, a bouncing baby girl due in a few months. We were both over the moon when we found out the gender, but now things have gotten . . . complicated, to say the least.
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    See, when we first started talking about names, the "boy name" was immediately decided: Stuart Jr., after my husband. No problem there, it's a classic name and carries family meaning. But, for a girl, things got murky.
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    My husband suggested Stuarta. No, you're not having a stroke. Apparently, his logic is that since Stuart ends in "t," we can just add an "a" to make it feminine. I tried explaining why that doesn't quite work, how it sounds more like a furniture brand than a human name, how she'd be endlessly correcting people and explaining its origin. He's adamant though, says it "honors" him while giving our daughter a unique name.
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    I've suggested alternatives: feminine names that maybe share a similar sound or meaning to Stuart, names he's mentioned liking in the past, even just going back to the drawing board entirely. But he's fixated on Stuarta.
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    Now, I love my husband dearly, and I understand wanting to honor family. But I can't imagine subjecting our daughter to a lifetime of awkward stares and endless questions about her "unusual” name. I also worry about potential bullying and the impact it could have on her self-esteem.
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    So, Reddit, am I the for refusing to budge on Stuarta? Is there any compromise I haven't considered? Help a soon-to-be mama out! TL;DR: Husband wants to name our daughter after himself; in a really, really bad way. I think it's terrible and will set her up for a lifetime of awkwardness. AITA?
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    Looking forward to your thoughts and (hopefully) some sanity checks! Edit: Please, no suggestions for other "-ta" names. The man clearly has a theme, and I need to gently steer him away from it, not fuel the fire!
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    Pollythepony 1993 23h Partassipant [4] NTA. Naming child is a two yes and one no situation. Means you need two times yes for a name to be it and one no to make sure that name is not the name you choose. Works both ways if you'd ask me. Also, I am not a fan of naming the first name of a child after a parent. Because then the child will always be compared to their parents and need to fight harder to be their own person. I have less problems with the middle name being connected to someone else (par
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    ravynwave 21h I'm just gonna leave this here. I met a dude who was so obsessed with his name Paul, he not only named his two children Pauly and Paulina (or maybe it was Pauletta), he also forced his wife Olivia to change her name to............Paulivia. PAULIVIA Don't let yourself be turned into a Stuartina. That is all.
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    NTA princess_ferocious 23h Tell him he only gets one kid named after him, so if he goes with Stuarta now, he'll never get a Stuart Jnr. And how come it's so important that he be honoured, but not you? See how he feels about naming a future son a male version of your name. Remind him that baby names need a yes from both parents or it's a no. You both need to be able to live with whatever you go with. Even if that means both of you missing out on the one you want most.
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    lolzidop 22h And how come it's so important that he be honoured, but not you? This is what got me, why does he think his name has to be honoured?
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    TemptingPenguin369 23h Craptain [167] NTA. Stuarta sounds like a pharmaceutical product. (I can hear the commercials now. "In some cases, Stuarta can cause headaches, rashes and even death.") It doesn't have a decent nickname. And no, adding an "a" doesn't make it feminine in all cases; this is one of them. I'd go for Stuart as a middle name.
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    Laelith75 23h And I don't know why, but somehow a laxative comes to mind.
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    NTA! pandora840 23h There is a HUGE difference between wanting to honour family names in a new child and being SO PIGHEADED AND SELFISH that you would saddle a child with a lifetime of ridicule just to get your name into theirs. Suggest that you husband just change his name to a (bonus points if it sounds nonsensical) masculine version of YOUR favoured name for your baby. Because if he isn't willing to at least consider that then it's just his egotistical selfishness that is talking.
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    lataaddicted25 22h Pooperintendant [61] Or just tell the husband that if they are naming the baby after a parent they will be naming her after the person carrying and bearing the baby: op.
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    NTA drunkolive99 23h Aficionado [14] For the sake of your daughter, stand your ground on this one. says it "honors" him Also... this is a rather narcissistic mindset for naming your kid.
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    Thecatisright 23h Partassipant [1] Why does the name of your daughter have to honour him? Narcissistic much? Besides, the name is absurd and will set her up for bullying. It sounds like your husband really doesn't want to have a daughter. The name feels like a punishment for being a girl. NTA
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    Betelgeuse8188 23h Aficionado [14] "Hey I've got a good idea." "Stuart...a." NTA. I'm speechless. That's absurd. Normally I'm all for compromises in a relationship, but dear god no. Don't budge. You can't subject your daughter to that.
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    Ok_Imagination_1107 23h Enthusiast [7] So do you guys have absolutely zero female relatives who should be honoured with a name? No worthy females at all who this child could be named after if it's? Stuarta? Awful embarrassing will lead to bullying doesn't sound nice.

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